星期一, 十二月 31, 2007

意见分歧,只有接受?

老板说的你不是很同意, 同事讲的你不是很赞同, 朋友做的你很看不顺眼, 家人做的你很不能认同. 所以这一种的情况下该怎么办呢? 这几个月来, 认识我很深的朋友都知道我在这一家公司里已经和几个人"吵"过了. 老板的理由有时候真的不是理由, 即便你多有道理(绝对不是强词夺理)他也会固执的不接受. 所以, 我能做的做了--fight for my own reasons, 即便是一场早注定是输的战, 战过也对得起自己. 有些人会认为我是白费力气, 也许他们是对的. 也有同事告诉我, 习惯就好了. 但是, 我是绝对不允许自己就变成这样的. 因为我已经是这样很多年了. 中国人的美德, 却也偏偏是一大缺点--容忍哑忍. 我开始觉得这不是一个优点了. 小学中学的老师常常说, 我们必须默默耕耘, 沉默是金, 这也要看什么时候吧? 当开始出来工作后, 开始觉得我们所受过的教育好象大部分是没有什么用的... 也许是我偏激了一点. 哦, 班车的问题还没有解决的. 而我也只能接受接下来的"处置"了. 新的一年我只希望家人朋友健康快乐.

You do not agree with your boss, your colleagues, your friends, even your family. When this happens, what would you do? In these few months, friends who know me well should have known that I have already had some "disagreement" with my bosses. Sometimes, really sometimes, boss' reasons are just not reasons. No matter (how you think) you have some more concrete reasons, he or she will be stubborn enough not to accept it (or maybe that is one of the major qualities for being a boss). However, I have fought for my own reasons, even though it is a destined failed war, I think I wouldn't feel sorry for not trying. Some might think I am actually wasting my time and my energy (even making some unnecessary enemies), maybe they are right. Some even told me "just get used to it and move on". I don't like the idea because that is what I have been doing all my life. Chinese's good quality -- tolerates quietly, which now I think also a big drawback of Chinese. My elementary and high school teachers always told us, do your work quietly and silence is gold. I think it really depends on different situation. Somehow after I start working, it feels like the education we had back then are empty and shallow. Maybe I am just a bit too extreme. Well, the shuttle bus problem is far from being solved. Now, no matter what the outcome is, I guess I will accept it quietly. In this new year, I just wish my family and my friends happy and healthy!

3 条评论:

Chloe 说...

应该怎样处理这种情绪呢?先抒发出来-然后放下-继续或开始做一些想做、该做的事?!你好像都懂了。我通常都需要比较长的时间才能做到。

s@m巧彦 说...

sometimes, we really need to think over and over again before we act or speak out so that it won't bring any bad consequences in the future. there are certain things we can remain silent and some other you need to voice out if you feel you are compelled to do so. you are a smart guy, you know what's the best for yourself...

匿名 说...

Over the years we learn better to distinguish what is our own opinion and what is the influence of others. We know better what is best for ourselves and how to explain that to others. I am sure you are in that same process of learning as everybody else. Although some are more perceptive to these kind of thoughts and feelings. As Sam said: "You are a smart guy, you know what is best for yourself..." I couldn't agree more.